Just Tell Him To Fuck You Properly
I originally wrote this post for another purpose, but wanted to share it with my readers...
Show of hands…how many of us are verbal? Oh so many hands…no, no, my dears, I don’t mean on the celly-phones…I mean in the boudoir. Oh…lol…not so many hands. I’ll admit there was a time I was quite the mouse in the house in that aspect, but found as I grew older, my ability to profess what I wanted became much easier. Probably because I tired of the frustration of not having my desires met---which was my fault for not telling what they were to begin with. Communication is key. Not just in real life either. It’s essential for writers to make sure their characters are verbal.
Any of you who aren’t familiar with my work, I should tell you before we get started, I write it H-O-T. I write contemporary erotic romance with an emphasis on military and BDSM. A few weeks ago, one of my Doms, Dante Larson from the Identity series, guested on another blog in which he stressed this very thing—the art of communication. You see, as he so eloquently put it, he’s not a mind reader much to many a fan’s chagrin. He made it perfectly clear that day that in spite of popular belief, Doms need directions. And not road signs or via Google maps either. They need their subs to talk to them.
Not a mind reader?!
Oh, yes. Our sex scenes should include…dialogue.
And realistic dialogue at that. Not the cheesy dialogue that riddled romance waaayy back when in the, you know, **peering around with a hand over my mouth to conceal the whisper**, Fabio days. Ooohhh, darling and awww does not a conversation make. J What does a conversation make?
My characters are honest and realistic in their conveyance of what they want, need, and desire. I want my readers to feel as though they’re in the same room with the romping couple as opposed to peeking through the bedroom window like Tom. J They tell each other what feels good and what doesn’t. They’re at times vulgar. And they say I love you. They express their concerns and fears, uncertainties. And when their done being verbal, everyone usually comes out satisfied and happy. Notice I said usually. Let’s face it. It’s not always a perfect conclusion in real life and my characters sometimes have a less than stellar moment as well. It’s just who I am—the Queen of Realmantica—and I dare not apologize for my style. I keep it real. J
Conversation keeps a sex scene fresh. It keeps it from being an extremely long, monotonous description of an act that should be intimate and felt to one’s toes. Writers be bold! Let you characters be verbal.
And don't be afraid for your heroine to tell the hero to fuck her properly...
Until next time...
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