Just Tell Him To Fuck You Properly
I originally wrote this post for another purpose, but wanted to share it with my readers...
Show of hands…how many of us are verbal? Oh so many
hands…no, no, my dears, I don’t mean on the celly-phones…I mean in the
boudoir. Oh…lol…not so many hands. I’ll
admit there was a time I was quite the mouse in the house in that aspect, but
found as I grew older, my ability to profess what I wanted became much easier.
Probably because I tired of the frustration of not having my desires
met---which was my fault for not telling what they were to begin with.
Communication is key. Not just in real life either. It’s essential for writers
to make sure their characters are verbal.
Any of you who aren’t familiar with my work, I should tell
you before we get started, I write it H-O-T. I write contemporary erotic
romance with an emphasis on military and BDSM. A few weeks ago, one of my Doms,
Dante Larson from the Identity series, guested on another blog in which he
stressed this very thing—the art of communication. You see, as he so eloquently
put it, he’s not a mind reader much to many a fan’s chagrin. He made it
perfectly clear that day that in spite of popular belief, Doms need directions.
And not road signs or via Google maps either. They need their subs to talk to
them.
What?!
Not a mind reader?!
Talk!?
Oh, yes. Our sex scenes should include…dialogue.
And realistic dialogue at that. Not the cheesy dialogue that
riddled romance waaayy back when in the, you know, **peering around with a hand
over my mouth to conceal the whisper**, Fabio days. Ooohhh, darling and awww
does not a conversation make. J
What does a conversation make?
The truth.
My characters are honest and realistic in their conveyance
of what they want, need, and desire. I want my readers to feel as though
they’re in the same room with the romping couple as opposed to peeking through
the bedroom window like Tom. J
They tell each other what feels good and what doesn’t. They’re at times vulgar.
And they say I love you. They express their concerns and fears, uncertainties.
And when their done being verbal, everyone usually comes out satisfied and
happy. Notice I said usually. Let’s face it. It’s not always a perfect
conclusion in real life and my characters sometimes have a less than stellar
moment as well. It’s just who I am—the Queen of Realmantica—and I dare not
apologize for my style. I keep it real. J
Conversation keeps a sex scene fresh. It keeps it from being
an extremely long, monotonous description of an act that should be intimate and
felt to one’s toes. Writers be bold! Let you characters be verbal.
And don't be afraid for your heroine to tell the hero to fuck her properly...
Until next time...
Thanks for coming by today!
~~Lila
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